A Bit of Advice.

source unknown

Day 8, Wednesday: 
A piece of advice you have for others. Anything at all.

I don't often try and tell people what to do, like, ever (because I'm not an expert), but there is one thing I think is really important in life: always speak kindly toward and about your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend in public settings at all times.  Don't put them down, don't talk about what a jerk they are.  You chose to be with that person and you should be respectful of them the way you would want them to be respectful of you.  And when you open yourself up like that, you may find yourself on the end of unsolicited advice or commentary that is likely not to be helpful.  This doesn't mean you need to be gushing about your loved one at all times- that can be equally annoying- but if something is wrong or they do something that drives you crazy, think first if other people really need to know about it, or if it just makes your relationship look bad.  If you love someone, keep the ins and outs between you.

What kind of advice would you share?

9 comments

  1. YES! I totally agree with this. The other thing is that once you resolve the issue with your partner, the person that you complained to doesn't get that feeling of it being resolved, you know? They just have the negative things you said to think about.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I do my best to follow this principle for pretty much every aspect of my life. There is nothing worse than seeing inappropriate, negative comments on Facebook about co-workers, general work situations, in-laws, etc. It is particularly important with a partner, as publicly blabbing a problem is basically a guarantee to make a situation worse.

    ReplyDelete
  3. yesssssssss! i remember one of my good friends in high school made a comment about "you and matt have some kind of weird pact to never talk bad about each other" like it was a very negative thing. i think it was just more of a mutual respect for one another... even in high school, and it's worked out well so far :)
    -Rachel w k
    rwkrafts.com

    ReplyDelete
  4. I really love this advice! I'm such an open book (especially with really close friends) that it's hard for me not to just rant about whatever is on my mind, but I really find that it's hugely beneficial to just keep private matters private. Thanks for sharing :-)

    ReplyDelete
  5. I couldn't agree more! I hate seeing posts on FB about relationship problems! Bad mouthing the ones you love gets you nowhere. This should be like a warning when you sign into FB...lol!

    ReplyDelete
  6. I definitely agree that some things are better left unsaid. There's so much drama on facebook that I wound up deleting my account a few months ago. I just didn't want to waste time on there anymore.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Completely agree. And going along with that, how about people just stop over-sharing on Facebook in general? A couple of months ago a girl had a status that said, "I just picked a huge booger." Why would anybody need to know that? Gross.

    ReplyDelete
  8. I agree! I am friends with a single mom that constantly rants about her latest boyfriends and then can't figure out why they never stick around. Nothing is sacred anymore.

    ReplyDelete
  9. I'm not on facebook, but I actually just unfollowed someone on twitter the other day for this very reason. And I pretty much never unfollow people. But I just couldn't take any more of the constant bad-mouthing of her husband and children on twitter. I just don't get that. It's tacky and I don't think she realizes it makes HER look bad, not them. It's one thing to confide in a close friend and possibly ask for advice, quite another to blast your problems over the internet for potentially thousands of people to read. And it definitely won't help solve the problem, if anything, it will make it worse once the spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend sees that you put it all online.

    ReplyDelete